They suck the life right out of you. And when you're done with them, you feel exhausted and mystified. Following are seven types of difficult people that you will cross paths with at some point in your life, if not several times this week. This is a classic example and what many probably think of as a difficult person.
They tend to be very assertive and unyielding in their positions. Honestly, the most helpful tactic to deal with these kinds of people is just to steer clear of them. If they come at you, try to deflect or distract. If you point out an alternative target that seems more pressing, they may move on. Counter their intensity with disregard or a muted response. By being placid in your interactions, you actually hold some power by effectively neutralizing their intensity.
No resistance exists to give the bully a point of impact. Your Mind Game to Manage : Oh! A close cousin of the bully is the egomaniac. These people border on the ridiculous in how highly they think of themselves. Not only is their perceived self-worth astronomical, but they also seem to think they know everything.
I ran into many of these types in the corporate world. Most were men, but not all. They usually resided in the executive offices. In my experiences coming face-to-face with such people, I was amused by their conviction in their own self-worth. Sometimes it felt like a satirical SNL skit. But the really funny thing about these people is that they are so malleable. So play to it to get what you want. For these people, flattery will get you everywhere.
You do this by leaning in to help them pat themselves on the back. Give the impression of sincerely if only to not expose your ulterior motives.
Resist rolling your eyes. Instead, compliment them, seek their advice, and subtly mimic their style. This all plays well to this type. In time, they will probably come to genuinely like you and trust you because you give them an audience they crave.
All of us have needs. Some have a lot more than others. Enter the overly needy person. This may be the new acquaintance who believes you two are becoming best friends without much evidence nor time spent. These people have a hard time standing on their own two feet emotionally or socially and seek out people to be their crutch. I remember going on a whale watching kayaking trip in Vancouver Island, Canada many years ago.
I was living in Chicago at the time and coincidently, while on the trip, I met another single gal from Chicago. After the trip, she was all over me. She suggested that we hang out. At first, I was open to it but quickly realized that we had nothing in common and I found her company boring and rather draining. Despite what I thought was a non-starter in forming a friendship, she continued to pursue me. She repeatedly called and suggested we hang out. I wished her well but felt a relief when our paths finally parted.
Feeling blue every once in a while is the natural order of things. Cynical people like this seem to perpetually walk around with dark clouds over them. Little do they realize that their disposition becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Do you ever find that they always seem to be a victim of bad luck? These people tend to be the most frustrating to deal with because every halfway optimistic point you make is countered. Coupled with this doom and gloom is often deep-seated insecurity about themselves.
They just feel helpless to control the circumstances of their life. They don't mean any harm and; in many cases, they don't even mean to be pessimistic. It has just become and ingrained habit which they don't seem to be able to change. Their natural response to any situation is to automatically look for the negative in that situation.
They could win the lottery and their first thought would be about the hassle of having to turn up to collect their winnings.
Don't try to help them become more optimistic unless they really want to. What will usually happen is that they will find a negative response to every positive suggestion that you make. They will have an excuse for everything and it can get infuriating if you take it to heart. These people go quiet, and refuse to open their mouths to talk to you. They may be angry or annoyed, and express it by choosing not to interact with you. The muzzle is often somebody who suffers with passive behaviour.
When something goes wrong, they dont' complain. They just bottle it up and try to move on. Even though they are upset on the inside, the pretend that everything is fine. Of course, there is a major problem with pretending that everything is fine.
The problem is that everything is not fine and silence isn't going to solve the problem. If the problem is a one off situation; silence may not be an issue. When the problem is a recurring issue, silence becomes a major problem because they get more upset every time the issue occurs.
This then leads to a damaged relationship. While the muzzle rarely erupts like the volcano, they do occasionally resort to one behaviour associated with passive aggressive behaviour - the silent treatment.
When they are angry, they hope that yoiu will interpret their silence as anger and resolve the issue. Of course, given that they are usually silenct; it's not easy to notice the difference. You can learn to recognise more of the symptoms of passive aggressive behaviour with the following article - 8 Examples of Passive Behaviour.
We all need people whom we can confide in. A good friend, whom you can trust with your private thoughts and information, is like a therapist.
The very act of sharing your burden is therapeutic as you realise that you are not alone. This is all good as long the person you share your burden with is not a gossip. A gossip is one of the most devious examples of difficult people because while their behaviour is difficult; it can also be entertaining. It can be very easy to get lulled into a false sense of security as the gossip tells you you their tales.
You feel a sense of trust that this person has chosen to share private information with you. In doing so, you are oblivious to the fact that the information they shared wasn't theirs to share. They are addicted to the attention that they get from sharing gossip and they simply can't help themselves. These people are identified by their inability to make decisions. They don't want to make another person upset, so they stall.
When you are confident, you can accept making mistakes. You understand that if you don't take action, you won't make a mistake but you also won't do anything right. Growth and improvement requires some risk to be taken. They have very little impact on our end results. It therefore stands to reason that most of the decisions we make are not very important either. So, why would you waste time stalling over small decisions?
You just need to take action and if things go wrong, take corrective action where necessary. However, the staller doesn't understand this. They are usually a perfectionist who thinks that everthing has to be right and they desperately fear making a decision.
They blow every decision out of proportion and they fail to see the negative impact they have on everybody who needs them to make a decision. Probably the most frustrating of the examples of difficult people. The Yes man wants to be everybody's best friend. They are desperate to make an impression and have everyone think highly of them.
They believe the best way to do this is to get involved in everything and be the most helpful person they can be. The problem is that they are only being helpful if they do everything they agree to do.
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